It’s time to let go.

I have known something for a while and I have hung on.

I have hung on until I felt sick, realizing I wasn’t going to achieve my dream if I didn’t let go...

Of social media.

Not forever.

It may be weeks or it may be a month but it will be and I WILL be back!

This book is my dream. It has been on my heart for many, many years and the only way to finish, is to sit down and do the beautiful work.

If I’m working with a client who is stuck. The first thing we do is “find time”.

Usually, when we find time we can find the answer.

In my case, time IS the answer.

So, here is my promise to you. I won’t see you on here for a little while but I will soon have a book for you that I believe will leave a mark on your soul.

I won’t squander my time. I will be disciplined in my endeavor. I have called my shot and now I am at bat.

I’m swinging for the fences y’all!

This community has changed my life. I am writing FLOW for you and because of you.

I know, that with each step we take towards FLOW, we are changing the world. It may seem small but it matters. Our collective love is powerful. Our choice to live in love and not suffer creates ripple effects far greater than what we can see.

While I’m gone, make me a promise...

that you will see the abundance of your life. However you spend your holiday, take stock of what you already have and be grateful.

When the New Year hits, take a note from 2020 and remember that a day on a calendar doesn’t mean shit. The purpose of your heart is the point. Be intentional EVERYDAY. Don’t squander the precious breath in your lungs. Use your voice and your body to do what you love!!

I love you guys!! I’ll see you soon. Be good to each other and be good to yourself.

-I will send updates on ZOOM classes coming next year through my email/newsletter. Sign up if you haven’t already!
(Link in bio)

-subscribe to my FLOW podcast because y’all know I can’t shut up completely.

#flow #callyourshot #beintentional #beintentionaleveryday #takeabreak #findloveoverworry ...

Yesterday was for the kids.

Today is for my peers.

I want to ask you...

Do you spend more time looking ahead or behind?

Are you excited for what’s to come?

Has motherhood become your identity?

Alright, then let’s talk about an equation for YOU.

For ME.

For US.

Start with noticing what you focus on. Maybe even what you fixate on.

These things can show up as judgement of another or a fixation on our lack. (Self-shame)

An example may be...
“Every time my friend says she has to work, I get triggered because I don’t work”

Or

“So and so always looks put together at pick up and I feel like a frump a dumpa”

Or

“J. Lo.”

Whatever you focus on in the form of a judgement or self shame is often a magical window into something you can do for yourself.
Something that moves you forward instead of pining for the past.

Turn comparison/judgment into inspiration.

Let’s take the frump vs. fashionista example.

One day of each week, make an effort to put yourself together. Even just putting on earrings for no reason or throwing on mascara.

Don’t say a word to anyone and if they comment just say, “thank you”.

Notice how you shifted your looped thoughts into personal action.

Now, rinse and repeat.

Life will only change when we put attention on the things we want. Our looped thoughts only create deeper ruts in the same place. It’s your job to know what’s dominating your thinking and do one small thing to turn the tide.

Nothing happens overnight, including J. Lo’s ass. It’s one tiny habit at a time. Or one squat at a time.

I’ve always said, being afraid of getting older means you believe the best is behind you.

And that is a damn lie.

The only thing behind you is that booty that needs to get up and take the wheel.

Sign up for your life! Be excited. Stay curious. There is so much living to do!

What small thing will you do this week to honor the fire in your belly?

Let me know ⬇️

#momlife #itsonlygettingbetter #flow #kellywolf #dontlookback #aginggracefully ...

This one is for the kids. Ok, not the kid-kids but the 17-25 year old kids.

I know that isn’t my typical audience but I’ve been seeing more and more messages from these college bound or in-college kids.

Here are some things to consider when you begin your life outside of your family home:

When choosing your major, don’t forget about a minor.

The key is to follow this equation: Major in your passion.

And if your passion isn’t business then MINOR in business or marketing.

That way your primary study will create expertise in what lights you up and you will also be able to turn that passion into a business.

Often, creative people get stuck by only focusing on their passion and then they don’t know how to create a spread sheet or use google suite to up-level their business.

Once you graduate, look for internships in your minor. I know it doesn’t make sense but think about it...Your heart and mind will always be driven by the passion in you. You are likely to use your free time to watch videos and podcasts about your passion. So, we want to strengthen the weaker muscle.

Next, find a MENTOR or coach in your passion lane.

If you don’t feel like you can find a mentor. Reach out to professors and family friends. Ask them if they know someone “you could interview or talk to”.
Follow those fishing lines because they usually have a giant catch at the bottom.

Always follow these simple guidelines:

Be early.
(I never was and it hurt me, without question. Don’t do what I did)

Look presentable.
(I’m not saying a suit, I’m saying brush your hair and act like you care)

Ask questions.
(Most employers, mentors, etc. love to talk about how they achieved what they have, be curious and take notes)

And remember that your life is going to be a magical ride of twists and turns. Hire a therapist even when you aren’t hurting. The wealth of knowledge can teach you what it takes to pivot in hard moments so you aren’t spun out in the hard moment.

Take time for silliness and be random. Life isn’t a straight line and you don’t have to be either. Much gold comes from places you never expected.

Oh, and be gentle with yourself.

#collegeflow #collegebound ...

Sometimes, I’m simply overwhelmed with love.

I spoke to a friend today and she was sharing her teenage daughters irritations with her mothering.

I did the same to my mom.

My mom was my everything. She was my North Star, my light....

Then I turned 16.

Now, I understand how much those moments hurt because now they hold context for me.

This little angel of mine. My dear Lucy. She slays me. She rules me. I am putty in her hands. Her sweetness, her wit, her humor and intellect.

All of it.

No doubt she will challenge me and pull away from my arms someday. No doubt she will question my choices and argue my inconsistencies.

But today, I am overwhelmed. I am the mother of these dynamic little humans and dammit, I can’t believe my luck.

And Lu, when it’s time. Give me all you’ve got! I want to see your ferocity and answer your questions. I want your fire and your calm.

I just love YOU.

Everything I could ever need is living in a house with me.

I may be the luckiest human on earth.

#vancouverMoms #kellywolf #lifecoach #speaker #vancouverspeaker #vancouverlifecoach #flow #findingloveoverworry #anxietyhacks #feelbetteenow #cookinsomelove #keynotespeaker #vancouverkeynotespeaker ...

This week I am planning a very different kinda Christmas.

We canceled our plans to go home and we want to come up with extra specia ideas for our three babes.

If you all have any ideas in the Vanvouver area, I would be forever grateful for your insight in the comments below. ⬇️

And, I am working towards buying less and living more!! Right y’all!!!

But, if I do buy something I want to support our local small businesses, experiences, restaurants, etc.

Tell me anything you know in the comments below about our new home, Vancouver BC! ⬇️

If I was back in my other home Park City, UT, I would tell you to check out....

@splendorbeauty (note the mask) @wish @minnowskids @dollysbookstore @five5eeds @align_spa @deelicious_pc @cakeboutique @mountainflowerapparel @create_possibility_
@skiparkcityrealestate @11hauzjamaicanfood @yabbastyle @beaucollective @gallerymar

These businesses need us more than ever! Let’s pour into their buckets this year! ...

I really had to dig deep to access my inner bad ass lately.

It’s been a full on assault these past few months.

When you are a feeler...

I mean, I can feel it ALL.

It’s my super power and my down fall.

I wonder if it’s harder. If life is harder or if all of us are just in varying moments of rise and fall.

Maybe that’s what it is.

But either way, this little rotation has taken ALL the tools.

I think back on the many hard moments. I think back on the many glorious AF moments and I am just in awe.

This beautiful, complicated, glorious, bizarre thing called life...

and I am grateful.

I get to do this. Even the hard parts. I get to see what I’m made of and sometimes I get to see myself on the floor and sometimes I get to see myself hanging from a chandelier (yes, that has actually happened... who did you think you were talking to, ha!)

Today I’m choosing my inner bad ass. I asked her to take the wheel and let the hard stuff ride shot gun.

I hope today you can turn the music up. Eat a scone. See a tree. And thank all the things that you get to do this thing called life.

Love y’all. ...

This was the year my family planned a Thanksgiving trip to Chicago.

I was 10.

It was the most excited I had been in my entire life.

My parents had saved up to take us to the fanciest hotel in Chicago, The Drake, for Thanksgiving dinner.

My love language is food and I had practiced making sure I knew the right fork to use.

I was out of body excited.

We got to Chicago and we were staying in a friends apartment that had left town for the holiday. We were literally on top of each other and had driven for 13 hours to get here.

I just focused on The Drake. That’s all I needed. I could wear a dress, put my hands on the crisp, pressed table cloths. Gaze at the sparkling crystal glasses on the tables. I felt like I was a princess getting ready for the ball.

We woke up on Thanksgiving Day, my parents sat me down and said they had decided to cancel The Drake.

It was just, too much money.

We needed to save and use that money for our life and they were so sorry and it was just a day and it was all going to be ok.

I’ve never cried so hard. In this strangers apartment. No family or friends. On my favorite holiday.

We tried to find a more affordable option but everything was closed so we bought turkey slices and wonder bread at the 7-11 below the apartment.

I was gutted.

I get it, it was JUST a day. But sometimes that DAY is the day that was giving you hope.

So, I would love to offer to spend some time with you guys on Thanksgiving.

That DAY.

We can join live and I’ll make some pie and we can talk about FLOW and how to navigate the moments that break our hearts.

And we won’t be alone.

And that’s a lot.

Want to join me? ...

Inaction can be action.

Seems wrong, but sometimes it’s oh so right.

If I had to say, what I felt was the most dangerous challenge facing us today, it would be our inability to have measured and thoughtful actions.

We are hot to trot with our trigger happy, cancel culture.

There is a famous photo of the height of Hitlers terrifying rein and in the picture thousands of people are holding their arm in the ridged expression of loyalty he demanded.

Then there is a man.

One man. Standing in the crowd, almost smirking at the insanity and not taking the expected action.

His inaction was deep action.

That one man showed the world that not every person was in agreement. His inaction was the window to understanding a way to psychologically undo complicity.

My grandfather was in the army during WWII.

He fought for us to hold our arms down when complicity is expected.

My action is to take time.

I will choose to take time to find the ones who hold their hands down in the crowds of loud.

I will slow down when everyone else speeds up. I will stick to the virtues: courage, temperance, wisdom and justice.

It takes courage to have temperance. It takes more courage to pause and consider then to jump and react.

When I was a young woman, growing up in Arkansas, my dad took me out one day to teach me how to handle a shotgun. My dad also served in the Airforce and he embodies the virtue of temperance more than anyone I have ever met.

He said, “Always carry the gun uncocked and facing down. You don’t want to make a rash decision when you hold the difference of life and death in your hands.”

My family only kept firearms to manage life in the deep woods. A wounded deer or a rabid raccoon.

Let virtues be your guide when times are troubled.

Take time to breathe so you can stay calm when the world seems to be in a full sprint to chaos.

I promise you, we will find each other.

Standing calm in the storm.

Holding the light in the darkness. ...

Ok, I am going to say it...

You HAVE to listen to this episode of the FLOW podcast.

I just listened back and not to sound like a total narcissist, but this information is life changing!

Especially, in challenging times.

Take 20 minutes and take notes!

I will link this in my bio AND it is available on ALL podcast platforms. Spotify, Apple, etc.
search “FLOW by Kelley Wolf”.

I will also put another swipe up in my stories.

After you listen I would love to hear your thoughts, questions and insights down here ⬇️⬇️⬇️

#podcasts #energyprotection #kellywolf #flow #findingloveoverworry #loveistheanswer ...

I just had an Ah-Ha moment!

I don’t know about you but silly fun and simple joy seems like it is in short supply.

Even without Covid and Politics, as a mom of three, a wife, a business owner... la di da, all of it. I rarely have, or should I say MAKE time to tap into my playful side.

My hunch is life isn’t going to magically make time for all of us. And I know for sure that the journey IS The destination.

So, it’s up to me.

I have to be the master of ceremonies in my own life and carve out little spaces to let my hair down.

Or in the case of this picture BUY some tape on bangs and throw on a wig and treat myself to a photo shoot.

Shout to @carlaboecklin for catching the moment when I just rolled around for a minute. I forgot that I was that responsible, controlled lady and I let it ride!!

God, it felt good and I freaking love this picture to remind me that “Fun Kelley” is still alive and well.

Can you create a moment? Maybe it’s a luxurious bath with music blaring. Maybe it’s buying a little something just for you. Maybe it’s just sitting the hell down in the middle of the day.

Whatever it is, I’m going to champion your joy! I’m going to applaud your play and I may just roll up and join you someday!

Sending you all love and hopefully some play today. We need it, don’t you think?

#flow #findingplayoverworry #findingloveoverworry #goofy #loveyourself #tapeonsomebangs #kellywolf ...

Ok... I was not the bachelorette. This was my birthday from years past.

I did tell everyone they had to wear a suit or I would send them home.

I’m never short of moxie.

One of my guy friends showed up in jeans and I sent him home to change.

Don’t mess with a girl who has two wardrobe changes for her birthday.

But, if I was the bachelorette, I definetly would have picked the guy to my left (in the picture).

Oh! I did! Yay!

And you know who WAS the bachelorette? My dear friend and fellow momma bear @tristasutter.

Trista has a new podcast called @betteretc and I had the honor of being a guest this week!

I’d love for you guys to check it out! If you subscribe you will see it pop up this week. We took a deep dive into FLOW. We talked about ALL the things because we both believe in transparency and at least trying to be better at being vulnerable.

Enjoy!

#flow #kellywolf #findingloveoverworry #lifecoach #speaker #tristasutter #indianagirls ...

I know I’m not supposed to do this.
Everyone always tells me to “just ignore it” and “don’t engage”.

But, I’ve been working on a speech I am giving tomorrow to teenage girls and I cannot wait.

I decided I would share a story from my high school years of being relentlessly and aggressively bullied towards the end of my senior year and how it was the fuel I needed to show me my purpose. How to FLOW in times of chaos.

That experience shaped me. I always wanted to “understand” how people could be so cruel. I wanted to understand what would happen to someone, that they were then able to inflict such abuse. I spent years unpacking their destruction.

Maybe it was apropos that I was relentlessly bullied today on my messages and on my page because it reminded me how I felt back then.

I remember saying to my attackers, “Just leave, can’t you just leave me alone. Why do you have to come to MY house and do damage”.

Hate me all you want. Say what you want, but please don’t arrive at my door and spew hateful and cruel things.

I wish I didn’t care, but I do. And the truly sick part is, I actually care to understand. I actually would want to talk and try to understand what happens to a person that could be so hateful. It is a weakness of mine and I will work to "just ignoring them”.
So,I guess I should say thank you for reminding me of the message I will bring those young women tomorrow.
It will be a message of hope and faith. Faith that what may feel like a loss and may be painful, is also your guiding light to the purpose of your life.

Without the cruelty, I may not understand compassion. Without their anger, I may not realize the need for my calm.

I am grateful to the girls who spit in my face and slashed my tires. I am grateful to the girls who spray painted BITCH on the street in front of my house. I am grateful because they thought they were pushing me down but they pushed me up.

Go ahead and come at me with your anger. I’ve been here before. But please remember I won’t let you evoke anger in me.

With every ounce of my being I believe in my power to FLOW. I WILL find love over worry, hate, fear and aggression.
Now, I will celebrate.
With LOVE ...

Love wins.

I haven’t been able to write because I cannot stop crying. I think the world will be able to take a collective breath and consider how we move forward in times of deep crisis.

The distractions and anger and worry have taken center stage for too long and today we can crest the wave of worry and begin to heal.

Begin to FLOW.

And to all the ladies and girls out there...How ‘bout them apples!

Thank you Mrs. Vice President Elect Harris. You will be our lighthouse.

Today is a day to celebrate the power of LOVE. The power of collaboration and especially the hope for our future.

When you finish your mimosas, let’s talk about getting to work on healing.

Love you all! ...